Healing, discussing, processing our problems is so vital, but the distinction between the constant obsessing, complaining and focusing on the negative, it becomes almost like an addiction. Learning to reset and redirect is imperative, so we can focus more on gratitude, positivity, and all of the good in our lives.

So many of us grew up believing that we had to earn love, settle for crumbs, or put up with bad behavior, so if you have to wonder if they want you, you usually already have your answer. And it has nothing to do with your worth.

Remember, someone that does something bad to you, will always try to control the narrative, and they generally get out there first and spin the story to anyone who will listen. I always like to watch the quiet one. You are not alone.

If you feel lighter without them, more alive, healthier, take it as a win.

People who harm you will blame you for it. Remember, an abuser will generally always play the victim, spin a story, tell everyone and they generally call you crazy.

Expecting perfection is the new extreme fundamentalism. Our addiction to attacking women, having unrealistic standards, and finding anything we can to discredit them, shows our rage addiction and expecting perfection is just a new way of repackaging hating women, and it is so destructive and dangerous. People apologize, grow and change. Let them.

Changed behavior is the only apology, otherwise, it's just manipulation.